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Our Modern World

When Rachel's brother Mark and his family came to town for a weekend, we tried to make a plan to do something fun. Rachel and Mark's wife Abby voted for the Cezanne exhibit at the art museum. I was in favor of this plan until I checked the web site for tickets and realized they cost $25 apiece.

"I don't think I could enjoy this exhibit now. I'd be thinking about the price the whole time," I said. Mark agreed with me.

I suggested that perhaps instead of going to the museum, we could just drink coffee out of our Cezanne mug, a relic of the exhibit that came through in 1996. And we could listen to the "Cezanne, Father of Cubism" song from the 1980s.

Everyone looked at me with looks of uncomprehension. On Internet forums, people sometimes write "whoosh" to indicate a concept that has flown over their head. This was a whoosh moment.

Fortunately, in the Internet age we have Songza.com. I used it to search for "father of cubism" and it found the song I remembered, by The Special Guests. I played it for the assembled company, none of whom were remotely impressed with my results.

I listened to the song a few times and fondly remembered the video from MTV. Then I did some Google searching and found the Special Guests have long since been forgotten, but there was an article from 1987 in the New York Times reviewing a show and mentioned their main artistic force.

I Googled his name and found his MySpace page, which had a blog. That blog had a link to another, more personal blog, started about a year ago. I read the whole blog - the guy is a very funny writer - and sent him a note on Facebook explaining the morning and my happy rediscovery of his song.

Then I sat back and waited for him to respond with a "I'm so glad you wrote to me" note. I am still waiting.

everyone plays by the same rules

Last Friday, a coworker mentioned to me a particular "girl rule", part of a larger girl code that all girls instinctively know. This is the rule: when you bring a man to a party, if you want to signal to all the other females in the room that this man is taken, you eat off his plate without asking. I filed this away as possibly useful knowledge.

On Sunday evening, Rachel and I were at a live music event at a cafe in Philadelphia. While we listened, she stabbed an olive out of my bowl of farfalle putanesca. I looked around the room. The audience for the band we'd gone to hear trended distinctly lesbian. I gave Rachel a long look. Was she telling me that I needed to snag some food from her plate? Because I was very sure that I was not in play at this event.

The next day I asked for clarification. Rachel said she just wanted my olives.

natural mistake

Rachel's book group read some Jane Austen novel, and Rachel really enjoyed it. She put the movie on our Netflix queue and we sat down to watch it together one evening after the kids were in bed.

A minute in, I sensed that Rachel was getting tense. Another minute went by, and she was very agitated. "I don't remember ANY of this, Joe," she said. Either her memory was starting to fail utterly, or the movie producers had done some horrible abuse to the story.

"That's because you read Pride & Prejudice and this is Sense & Sensibility."

"Thanks. I feel much better now."

Good for the Phillies? Or Bad?

Rachel and I took our son to a baseball game last night. I had scored discounted tickets, which was amusing when we realized it was Jewish Heritage Night. Nobody should pay retail for baseball!

Amusing observations about Jewish Heritage Night:

1. The electronic signs that normally display "Fastball 91 MPH" or the happy birthday listings were kvelling messages like "Sigmund Freud, the father of pyschotherapy, was a Jew" and "Jewish filmmaker Stephen Spielberg is the most successful director since the advent of film"
2. Best crowd reaction during a tepid game was for a kid with a Star of David flag, on which he'd written "Jew Gotta Believe"
3. The Phanatic danced the hora
4. The Phillies lost when Ryan Madson failed to hold the lead in the eighth inning. Why does bad stuff always happen to us?
   

So hard to tell anymore

My son brought home a picture book about the Trojan Horse from the elementary school library. I read it to him, and saw in the frontpiece a bookplate proclaiming that the book was donated in honor of Julia M's 8th birthday in November, 1992, with love from her parents.

I went on Facebook and found Julia M and sent her a note, explaining that our family had seen the tribute and wanted to wish her a belated eighth birthday. (She's a college graduate now. From Juliard, according to her FB profile.)

I never heard back from her. Which made me wonder, did I cross that line? The creepy old man line?

Two jokes diverged in a wood

This weekend, I had the two younger kids at the pool. Andrew was using flippers and Elizabeth was inside an inflatable ring, both borrowed from the poolside closet. In the pool with us were some friends from the neighborhood and a very attractive young woman who looked to be in her late 20s with her toddler.

When it was time for us to go, I helped Elizabeth out of her floatie. Before I returned it to the closet, I paused to offer it to the pretty lady. "Would your daughter like to use this?"I asked.

She looked surprised. "Excuse me?" she said.

Time slowed down. I considered my choice. I could get down on one knee and offer her a ring, which would be hella funny, but only if she got the joke. If she didn't, I would just be a really big dork. I took the conservative route.

Not so slick

While walking through the mall on the way to the food court one lunchtime, I asked my coworker Shane about why a mall would have a Bath & Body Works so close to a Body Shop. Are they different? Do discriminating people have reason to visit one store over another? Shane suggested that there must be a difference, but it's only germane to people who would ever enter either store.

That night, I mentioned the twin pairing of Bath stores to Rachel, who told me that there is a sognificant difference. That led her to reminisce about a container of Body Shop Pink Grapefruit lotion that her roommate had back before we were married. Rachel had enjoyed this lotion until the roommate mentioned that it was almost depleted. Rachel immediately replaced it, but never felt comfortable using it again.

The next time I walked through the mall atrium, I told the guys I would catch up with them in a few minutes. I detoured straight to the Body Shop, picked up a tub of Pink Grapefruit Body Butter, paid for it and took it back to the office along with my salad. "Gentlemen," I said, smugly brandishing my Pink Grapefruit goo tub, "let me tell you how I'm going to earn some husband points." I even suggested that my coworkers try employing the same setup:

Ask, "Honey, is there a difference between the Body Shop and Bath and Body Works?" Take note of wife's response, return next day with gift.

That night I kissed Rachel hello when I came in the door and told her I had a present for her. I handed her the bag, and she said "Oh, the Body Shop!!"

[pause]

"Body butter??"

"Yeah, pink grapefruit, remember?" I said, my confident smile faltering.

"That was shower scrub." (SHIT! Goddamn details! Body butter is different from shower scrub?!?)

Rachel looked up and gave me a big affectionate hug. The gesture was appreciated. But fellows, take note.

train riders

Yesterday as I boarded the Route 100, I saw a young man with Downs syndrome sitting in the third row, looking at his hands. He was wearing a Chuck E. Cheese shirt - with an embroidered logo, which I assume distinguishes Chuck E. Cheese employees from mere enthusiasts. I ended up sitting one row behind him, on the opposite side of the aisle.

At the next stop, he looked very excited to see an older lady get on the train and pay her fare. He slid over to the window and waved at her in a small motion. She walked right by him to take an empty seat in the back of the train, of course, since she didn't recognize him, and the young man looked crestfallen. He grabbed his hair with both hands and bent forward until his forehead resting on the seat in front of him. His face betrayed anguish.

That's when he started with the heavy metal lyrics, whispered under his breath so only I could hear them.

This SUCKS! You're FIRED! You're a FAILURE! I HATE YOU! You're going to get WHAT'S COMING TO YOU!!

He started very soft, but as the train pulled into 69th St. yard he got a little louder. You're going to HELL! I wonder if he works within earshot of the kids.

some bicycles are improved by fish

I have a coworker named Jim who has long maintained that bacon is the perfect food. He says it goes with anything else you might eat. If it doesn't improve it, he says, at least it's still wonderful. For example, if he was eating a bowl of ice cream and someone handed him a strip of bacon, he'd gladly alternate spoonfuls of one with bites of the other.


He has tried the chocolate/bacon mashup. At a fancy hotel brunch buffet with a chocolate waterfall on one side of the room, and an omelette bar at the other. He said it was fine.


Back in January, I saw a recipe for bacon ice cream on a blog. I saved it for future use.


On Monday, in honor of Jim's birthday, I brought in my ice cream maker, a quart of custard, crushed pecans and 12 oz of crumbled bacon that I had prepared the night before. Over lunch, I enlisted the help of my tablemates who normally sit together in the employee lounge to help agitate the ball containing rock salt/ice and custard/bacon. It took about 20 minutes, and then I started serving up bacon ice cream.


Jim got first taste. He liked it.

Mike went second, he pronounced it okay.

I went third. I really liked it. A lot.

Andrew declined to taste it. With disgust. Let's just say that I've never seen him order a salad, so it wasn't fear of saturated fats that was inhibiting him. As his boss, I considered ordering him to taste it, but decided instead to be gentle.


Some people around the lunch room - about 50% - were willing to have a spoonful. The rest made a wrinkly face of disgust.


Comments received (beyond the "whatever made you want to create this abomination?" variety):


"Eewww."
"It tastes...so wrong."
"I thought you were Jewish."
"That's definitely bacon."


Jim had seconds. I offered him a nicely wrapped pint to take home, but he didn't think it would survive the commute.


I sent an all-staff e-mail inviting anyone who wanted to try bacon ice cream to come to the employee lounge. I admit to being a little disappointed in the lack of adventure my coworkers displayed. I ended up freezing the two remaining pints solid and taking them home with me.


Rachel made the "Eeeww" face. The kids said they liked it, but left most of it. I offered tastes to my neighbors. They made the "Eewww" face.

I realize this isn't doing a good job of selling what I thought was a delicious recipe, but you probably already know in your heart if you're the kind of person who is going to enjoy bacon ice cream.